Gathering photos and memories for a celebration of life

Start where you are

We're sorry you have a reason to be reading this. Take your time. There's no wrong way to do it.

There's no right time to do this, and nothing needs to be perfect. If the service is soon, even a few photos are enough. People will keep finding more for months afterward, and they can be added later.

Ask widely

Friends, coworkers and neighbors often have photos the family has never seen. Those pictures can be a real gift, because they show a side of the person that others knew. A simple request in the announcement or the order of service is enough. Asking for a story along with the photo often brings the most meaningful replies.

Make it easy for older relatives

Many people who have the most to share are the least comfortable with technology. Offer to help in person, or ask a younger relative to sit with them and photograph old prints. A printed code on a card at the service works for those who'd rather do it later.

Choose who can see it

Keep it private to those invited, unless the family wants otherwise. Someone should review contributions before they appear, and it's fine to ask a trusted friend to do it. This can be a hard job in the first weeks, and letting someone help is a kindness to everyone.

Keep it safe

When you feel ready, download a copy of everything and keep it somewhere secure. Sharing a copy with other family members means the memories don't depend on one person or one service.